When you first enter a relationship, it’s easy to fall into the spell-bounding, heart-racing passion that over-takes your body every moment you’re with the object of your affection. Often the intensity of the relationship can be life-consuming, in a short few weeks leaving you with barely an acquaintance who’s been in your bed for the last week and a lot of confusion as to how you both got there.
When engaging in a relationship for the first time with anyone, it’s always best to approach with caution. I can not emphasis anything more than this.
Sleeping with someone too soon can make you come off as easy, and sends the wrong message about you to your date.
After all, no one wants to buy the cow if they can get the milk for free, right?
Also, it’s best to span out the time you spend together by a few days. Spend some time with the girls, go out and party with the guys; either way it’s healthier for both of you to have things in your life that are just for you.
Now, it’s possible that no matter how much caution you exhibit, you may run into what I like to call the stage 5 clinger. This would be someone with the characteristics much like that of an owner-dependent lap dog. The signs of the stage 5 clinger are as follows:
1) at least 4-5 calls a day, not including texts, facebook or msn conversations.
2) within the first two weeks, they’ve already mentioned the camping trip their parents have been planning for the past few months and how they invited you to share the 4 person tent they bought with them..
3) as soon as the words “…you’re hanging out with your friends, and not me?” pass their lips, that is when you head for the door.
“I love you” is softly whispered into your ear during the second date make-out session that is happening outside of your house in your backseat.
The best way to avoid a clinger and to protect yourself from a never-ending guilt ridden relationship is to take things slow and work on the chemistry that is building between the two of you.
If you’re meant to be, then there’s no need to rush anything, you’ll have the rest of your lives to do it.