They say that a man who loves and respects his mother and family in general is a good man, but should he always put them first over the woman he’s dating or even married to? I think not. And to be honest, I’ve never been flattered by that fact. If his life revolves around his mother then what part does his woman play? How will she fair when having a disagreement with his mom? This issue is definitely post worthy; so guys, if you’re like that then prepare yourself to be scrutinized.
I don’t know about some of you ladies but I certainly would be uncomfortable with a man who makes sure his entire family (mom, dad, sisters & brothers, cousins, uncles…okay now I’m exaggerating) is taken care of before he gets down to you. It’s like you’re his what-left. The back-burner. Decisions that should be made between the two of you are made by his mother. He disregards what you have to say in favor of her opinion. She has complete authority over your relationship and that ain’t right. He’ll say you’re wrong and side with his family should there be any conflict, and may never come to your aid. Now tell me, is that the kind of relationship you want for the rest of your life? Hell nah!
In my opinion, there’s a limit. He loves his mother, great, then he’ll treat women wonderfully. However, I will not tolerate a man who runs to his mom’s every call or jump when she says so. And I certainly will not accept her just dropping by and laying down her laws whenever she feels like it. I’m not saying I won’t have any respect or try to establish a healthy, stable relationship with his mother, but I won’t just lie down like a dog and let her walk all over me. Oh no, I’d have to stand up for myself and if my man doesn’t value my opinion or consider my feelings where his mom is concerned, then maybe that’s not a relationship I should be in. She can’t be right all the time. I mean, is she God? Of course not. She has to accept the fact that her son is a grown man and should live his life without her intervening all the time. He’s not a baby so she MUST learn to let go. And it’s not just the mothers either, for they’ll only continue to try and control things if the man continues to allow it. He has to put his foot down and set boundaries. “This is my woman and I love her. You’re my mother and I need you to respect my relationship and let us live our lives.” I know it’s easier said than done but it’s definitely worth a try.
This is just my opinion. What do you think? Should a man put his family first over his woman?