Still in love with my ex

Kelly Rowland’s I’m still in love with my ex, gave life to this post. I’ve never heard this song before, but in it she details her reasons for having left the relationship, just before saying I do.  The sole reason being she was-confused.

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Show Me Your Friends and I’ll Tell You Who You Are

Have you ever heard the proverb before? Well, its taken straight from the good book so it must be true. I for one have always been really careful about who I consider my friends and who I’ll hang out with. Because the company you keep says a lot about the kind of person you are. If you’re a scholar hanging out with a party animal … Continue reading Show Me Your Friends and I’ll Tell You Who You Are

I lied. It’s not me, it’s definitely you.

By Kai

Some of us have experienced the “it’s not you, it’s me” syndrome at some point in our lives and at that very moment we think to ourselves “bullshit,” because we’ve become so familiar with the statement that we know it’s a lie. Well, I’m a firm believer in ‘honesty is the policy,’ regardless. So whenever I have an issue with a guy’s behavior, I’ll definitely call him out on it. And if I’ve decided to take a break then I’ll just be truthful, ‘you’re the problem, I need a break from you.’ See the thing is too many lies are being told in relationships and that’s why progress is not even smelt in the air. I mean, you know things are going sour but Continue reading “I lied. It’s not me, it’s definitely you.”

Oceans apart: will the relationship work?

By Kai

He’s in Japan. She’s in the U.S. Having a long distance relationship when you’re States apart can be hard, but when you’re living in two separate countries is just beyond difficult. Skype has been an enormous help but not even that awesome invention can subdue the loneliness and longing felt by the two. Welcome to the life and ongoing issues that my friend has been facing since she started dating her boyfriend. Continue reading “Oceans apart: will the relationship work?”

Sometimes “the one that got away” really wasn’t the right one

It was just too perfect. I know many have felt that way in the past about a relationship and usually that’s the main reason why it falls apart. Sometimes perfect becomes comfortable, and safe; perfect inevitably leads to boredom. There’s nothing spontaneous happening and you begin to lose interest. He/she seemed like the right one at the time but after letting them go you come to terms with the fact that maybe they really weren’t. Now that you’ve had time to carefully think about the past and where the relationship went wrong, you can start developing logical reasons as to why it really wasn’t Continue reading “Sometimes “the one that got away” really wasn’t the right one”

My boyfriend, my hero…hopefully

My girls and I are always having discussions about the kind of qualities we look for in men. Often times we say he has to be determine, ambitious, kind, attractive, and the list goes on. But what I hope for above all the other attributes, yes even before hotness, is courage. Lord knows I do not want a sissy. And if a man acts cowardly in times where his strength is required, need be physical, mental, or emotional, then that will affect my overall image of him. To be honest, it would ruin even the first impression that was obviously good if Continue reading “My boyfriend, my hero…hopefully”

For Thought: Woman assaulted by naked ex-boyfriend?

As serious as this may be, I couldn’t help but laugh when I first read the news on the Jamaica Star website, my new found addiction. Apparently, a Jamaican woman told the courts on Monday that she had awoken after having her underwear ripped off and her ex-boyfriend, naked, was on top of her. She said that her ex was being cleverly evasive when law enforcement tried to Continue reading “For Thought: Woman assaulted by naked ex-boyfriend?”

The side chick wants more commitment?

A few days ago I stopped by a Dunkin Donuts on my way home to get a cup of my favorite Vanilla Chai tea. While waiting anxiously for this sweet beverage to be served to me, I couldn’t help notice the very interesting conversation going on between two friends at a table further right from where I was standing. Not that I was ease dropping, Continue reading “The side chick wants more commitment?”

Pleasing others before yourself, that’s no bueno.

With all the madness in the past few days surrounding Kim K’s divorce and all the rumors about her marriage being staged for television brought about some deep thinking on my part, especially after hearing her statement on “not wanting to disappoint people.” How many of us go through life not wanting to disappoint others so we disregard our own feelings in the midst? I can attest to the fact that I have placed my feelings on hold in order to please others, but that is definitely not good. It comes down to trusting yourself and doing what you feel deep within your heart is best for you. Continue reading “Pleasing others before yourself, that’s no bueno.”

For Thought: Man flees Jamaica after catching his wife cheating

There’s always some interesting story floating around the web and I’m the kind who’ll spend countless hours digging them out. Recently, I came across a news article by the Jamaica Star about a Chinese man who basically abandoned his business and left the island, after finding his wife in bed with a young employee. The St. Andrew community is on fire with this little drama, many Continue reading “For Thought: Man flees Jamaica after catching his wife cheating”

“My boyfriend says he’s hotter than I am.”

First of all, any guy that tells his girlfriend that he’s way hotter than she is below poop. There’s not even a decent word that can describe what a douche he is. And any girl who stays with such a loser could only be miserable. If she’s feeling that way without him even saying something so atrocious it doesn’t mean she’s not attractive, it’s just that she’s insecure. There’s nothing more sexy and attractive than a woman who exhumes confidence and loves the skin she’s in. But if that idiot spends way more time in the mirror fixing himself than you do, and makes it a mission in life to constantly remind you how not on top of your game you are, then he’s got to go. I mean, why is he with you to begin with and what exactly was it that attracted him to you if he’s later going to trample on your heart? Unless, and this is not an excuse for his disgusting behavior, Continue reading ““My boyfriend says he’s hotter than I am.””

“Help! My girlfriend beats me.”

There are many cases of women being physically abused around the globe; whether it’s by the hands of their husbands or boyfriends, it’s still a horrible thing happening to one too many. Often times these women find the courage to come forward and seek help, but sometimes they don’t. People can say anything when they’re not the one going through the ordeal, but it’s definitely not something they can easily get out of. Sometimes there are children involved, or other circumstances which makes it hard to just leave. It’s certainly not easy but there are surely shelters, agencies, and other organizations established to provide aid to battered and abused women when they do seek help, but after reading a recent article online, I began thinking what if it was the other way around. What if it’s the man being abused by the woman Continue reading ““Help! My girlfriend beats me.””

Single, broke, and depressed

Things don’t always work out the way you planned so it’s recommended that you always have a back-up. But what if life prevents you from even having a plan B? What if you took the one last chance you have left to be happy, knowing you had no other options to fall back on? Well, that’s exactly what my girl did; let’s just say that now she’s single, broke and depressed. This is the horrific conclusion when considering her current state of mind. If you’re looking from the outside in you might not get the clear picture of what’s really going on with her, but by simply observing without saying a word, you just might pick up Continue reading “Single, broke, and depressed”

Sex Talk: Let’s do the do boo!

Sex is a connector of sorts especially in relationships.  After all those late nights cuddling and many a day spent walking in the park, hormones start crisscrossing like busy pedestrians on Times Square.  The pace is much faster, and progressively so when the two of you are alone. 

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The 14 year old controversy

Like most, if not all, I was shocked by the atrocious video spreading across the internet of the fourteen-year-old girl giving a blowjob, and on school grounds at that. Surprisingly, last night I was watching the lifetime movie ‘She’s Too Young’ about 14-year-old kids being overly sexually active. It really brought me out of the naivety of still believing that kids today were in fact … Continue reading The 14 year old controversy

Hands off b**ch!

Not certain if we’ve posted about homewreckers in the past but still, I feel it’s an issue that should be addressed on the regular. Ladies, do you have female friends or have noticed some female in general that are just straight up catty and always be flirting with your man, even though they are well aware he’s taken? Well, my advice to you is to tell that girl to step and make sure she gets the message loud and clear. Some women just have no class. How dare you lust for another woman’s man and attempt at bringing your nasty ass self next to him? That’s just rude. Get your own or tune into an episode of “Living Single,” you might learn a lesson or two. 

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